Most of the effortless success that others seem to have is an illusion.
Most of life’s problems are not solved easily or automatically.
It is hard to imagine anything like dating in those days; but men and women did come together, even then.
They may not have paired off, exactly; there may have been harems.
But when struggling to do something, such as find a job, it is important to know what your chances are, so that you do not become demoralized after repeated disappointments. They do not mean that such efforts are doomed to failure.
Studies show that of those submitting resumes in response to an advertised job opening, only two percent will receive an invitation to visit the prospective employer!
The problems inherent in this process are two: it is difficult to find four or five hundred job possibilities, and This same process of pursuing statistically unlikely opportunities is required for success in many endeavors, for example, publishing a novel, or trying out for a professional sports team, or leading a successful rock band. Some young men and women meet in high school; and sometime later, perhaps years later, they marry.
Putting it simply, good things happen to people sometimes just by luck alone, without much effort, but not often. Is it likely that the first house you look at will turn out to be the house of your dreams? More likely you will have to look at fifteen or twenty houses before you decide to buy one.
If you look at one house every week or so, this process can take a long time.
Of course, I have seen over the years a number of couples who married their childhood sweethearts long ago.
Some of these marriages have lasted and seem to be happy.