Five tips to know before dating a father
This is not meant to be an all-encompassing list, nor is it meant to be a list of “must haves.” Rather, I wrote it as a selection of items which are all individually important in their own way, but not necessarily deal breakers.◊♦◊Sure, we can be realistic and acknowledge that you probably won’t have the same connection with our children as you might have with a child you carried for nine months and then birthed yourself; at least not for a long time.
But we want to believe that you will eventually love them as if they were your own.
When we did find time to see each other, we were both so exhausted from work and taking care of our children, that we barely had enough energy left to sit on the couch watching Netflix until we passed out.
Needless to say, the communication and intimacy in our relationship quickly began to deteriorate.
We just need you to reassure us that everything is going to work out.
These days, mothers are almost always viewed by the courts and the general public as the most capable and nurturing parent.
Almost any potential mate can handle a child that is not their own coming to visit four days a month.
It isn’t that big of a disruption in day-to-day life.
So it might seem stupid, and it might at times frustrate you, but we need you to show us that you aren’t going anywhere, and that we don’t have anything to worry about when you decide to have a night out with the girls.◊♦◊It seems that in almost any previous failed relationship, our trustworthiness has been brought into question by our partner.
Hell, once they can eat and get dressed on their own, they can practically babysit themselves, right?
In the four years since the birth of my daughter and the end of my relationship with her mother, I have done some dating.
We already have to do that around our ex, in order to attempt to co-parent.
You telling us that you trust us, means so much more to a dad who is constantly being ridiculed by our child’s other parent for our past infractions. There are nights that even a quickie is out of the question, because by the time homework is done and the dishwasher is loaded, there is no way in hell we are doing anything but falling into our bed and passing out.